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Life is impossible without trust.

Life becomes unbearable when you can't trust anybody or anything—a perpetual fight against anxiety and impending calamity. You can't have good connections if you don't trust each other. It is necessary for intimacy. I believe that lack of trust destroys more marriages than actual adultery. If one partner can't trust the other not to betray them, they will either push the other away or compel them to commit some real or imagined act of betrayal.

When trust is maintained, we will voluntarily provide what is required by contributing our existence and sharing our devotion, skill, energy, and candid observations about how the connection or group is functioning.

Someone has to start the trust cycle with a leap of faith. It's pointless to wait for the other person to take the initiative. They've been anticipating your arrival. To get the ball rolling, you need to make a deliberate act of absolute belief in the other person's good judgment, competence, honesty, or feeling of commitment.

Although actions and verbal expressions are undoubtedly proof of trust—for instance, whenever anyone treats you well and says lovely things to you—these behaviors are the only evidence of the internal mental state of belief that generates them, not of the faith itself. Trusting people may include making probabilistic predictions about how they will act, but most individuals trust others without grasping probability or making exact forecasts.

Foundations of Trust

Because trust is so crucial in professional and personal relationships, how can we keep track of it, strengthen it, and repair it when broken? You can identify the level of trust with the following:

Reliability: a person's or a group's ability to keep their word and follow through on their promises

Transparency: When people are not told about new development, they fear the unknown and prefer to assume the worst. When people communicate their opinions, feelings, and concerns, or when an organization, generally through its leader, informs its members about what is happening, everyone understands where they stand, and trust may grow.

Competency: This ensures that the trustworthy person does what has been promised. You cannot trust someone, a leader, or an organization if you believe they are incapable of performing what they are meant to do.

Sincerity, Authenticity, and Congruency: People can generally tell when someone says anything that contradicts their inner feelings. Promising one thing and doing the other indicates incongruency and weakens the established trust.

Mistrust is an emotional reaction that extends well beyond calculating the likelihood of individuals doing what they are expected to do. It likewise necessitates the depiction of the self, the mistrusted person, and the relevant element, but varies from trust in that it assigns negative feelings such as hate and dread.

Some philosophers argue that trust is a propositional stance, a relationship between an abstract self and an abstract phrase meaning. However, the origin of these identities, relationships, and meanings remain a complete mystery. Behavioral, probabilistic, and philosophical viewpoints are significantly less reasonable than the psychological alternative: trust is a sense of confidence and security.

Trust was a challenge for me for a long time... I blamed other people and their less than awesome actions for this for a long, long time. It wasn't until I recognized that I had lost trust in MYSELF that my whole life change... for the better.

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