Episode 053.
Let's not reverse Roe.
A candid conversation between two conscious mothers.
With Carmen Cervantes
TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss abortions in this episode, so if that content isn't for you, please exercise your discretion with this episode.
Carmen Cervantes is a woman who never thought she would be a mother, by her own conscious choice. When she and her husband found themselves unexpectedly pregnant they consciously decided that they would have an abortion. Then, they changed their minds...
I have a lot of respect for Carmen because she has entered into motherhood with her eyes wide open to the challenges she would face, the physical impact, the exhaustion and the financial strain. Despite the fact that we would have made different choices to start with, we are completely aligned in our desire to be conscious parents. (I would have respected her choice either way FYI!)
We are both women who are horrified at the thought that abortions might be made illegal in the states if Roe vs. Wade is reversed. We talk about this in this podcast. So trigger warning for those of you who might be sensitive to this sort of conversation.
It's also on my heart to say, if you are a woman who wishes she could be pregnant, you have a big hug coming from me... I know conversations like this might be hard to hear... but I feel strongly that we must be talking powerfully about keeping our choice and body autonomy. For you, for me, for our daughters and for the women around the globe who would feel the reverse of Roe so much more than we would!
#RiseSisterRise
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“Our history, our trauma, the way that we were raised, the place we grew up, everything informs the decisions that we’re going to make as mothers.” - Carmen Cervantes
“Nobody can tell you what’s right for you.” - Carmen Cervantes
“There's this whole idea about creating this ideal norm that nobody can measure up to, nor should we aspire to do that. We should embrace the fact that we're all different and that we all have different needs, live, and let live.” - Carmen Cervantes
“We need to stop comparing ourselves, stop putting our own perception on others. Just take care of yourself, take care of your family. And hopefully you can learn to take care of others.” - Carmen Cervantes
“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river.
We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” ― Desmond Tutu
“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life?
The world would split open.Ӊۥ Muriel Rukeyser
Carmen Cervantes is the host of the podcast Mother Mami Mom. She curates a space that helps mothers shed the idealized fantasy of motherhood and embrace their own journey through all of its ups and downs. She is passionate about bringing mother’s stories to the forefront and strives to encourage women in motherhood through community. She has learned that most women feel like they are failing as moms and hopes to create a collective shift in consciousness by showing up with curiosity instead of judgment so that all women can begin to truly enjoy their own motherhood journey.
Connect with Carmen Cervantes:
https://www.mothermamimom.com/
https://www.facebook.com/mothermamimom
https://twitter.com/mothermamimom
https://www.instagram.com/mothermamimom/
https://mailchi.mp/877b592b2f9c/mmmjournalingprompts
Mother Mami Mom Podcast:
https://mothermamimom.podbean.com/
Mother Mami Mom Podcast (ft.Candice Smiley):
https://mothermamimom.podbean.com/e/08_being-in-leaving-an-abusive-relationship/
Create the Ripple Podcast (Roe vs. Wade):
https://www.candicesmiley.com/e52-roe-vs-wade-dabate-with-candice
Resources (Roe vs. Wade):
https://www.congress.gov/bill/117th-congress/house-bill/3755/text
https://people.com/health/this-weekend-might-be-the-last-anniversary-of-roe-v-wade/
“And the people who are most impacted by these abortion restrictions and bans are people of color, low-income individuals, young people and LGBTQ individuals — people who are already burdened with insufficient access to healthcare."
What’s at stake:
https://www.aclu.org/issues/womens-rights
https://www.oyez.org/cases/1971/70-18
(Roe vs. Wade)
https://www.aclu.org/cases/doe-v-gwinnett-county-school-district
Abortion Resources:
https://womenshealthclinic.org/what-we-do/abortion/abortion-resources/
https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/abortion/abortion-resources/
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion
https://www.arcc-cdac.ca/clinics/
Women’s Health Protection Act:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/117th-congress/house-bill/3755/text
https://www.congress.gov/bill/117th-congress/house-bill/3755
https://actforwomen.org/the-womens-health-protection-act/
Dr. Mikolaj Raszek (Merogenomics Inc.).:
https://www.youtube.com/c/Merogenomics
Episode Transcriptions:
https://www.candicesmiley.com/podcast-archive
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“21 years ago I survived a sexual assault from my boyfriend.
14 years ago I decided not to kill myself.
11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt.
9 years ago I walked away rather than endure sexual coercion and harassment from my boss.
7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world.
5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself.
3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine;
2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love.
Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side."
Candice is a mom, podcaster, social marketer and essentialist who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs. Her favourite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in. (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast)
She has learned the power of saying no, listening to your own heart and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally. She’s become a voice for listening to your own truth and speaking it clearly, powerfully - at home, at work and in your life. She spends her time living - in a tiny home (250 sq ft), traveling, speaking and sharing candidly with others how to live life after betrayal, to trust themselves, to speak up for themselves and set powerful boundaries.
After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) With over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and her trust in herself. Coming out of this, she encountered her own “Me Too” moment dealing with sexual coercion and harassment in her professional life; saying no resulted in her being the target of gossip that tarnished her reputation.
Deeply affected by the gaslighting and the experiences, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, leaned on her personal network and practiced radical personal forgiveness, acceptance and responsibility. The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and learning to let go.
When grief rocked her world a little less than 2 years ago, Candice knew it was time to stop her life, hit the pause button and finally do the deep work to heal her heart, self and mindset. Emerging from this place, Candice has begun to embrace her fierce and receptive feminine nature. The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features other amazing guests who are not afraid to do the hard work of personal development, listen to their own minds/heart and then speak up and out for those things that matter; to themselves and to make a difference in the world.
Candice loves her essentialist lifestyle for the beauty and freedom it offers her. She can never resist the urge to take off her boots to walk barefoot into a clear mountain lake or stream. When she is not connecting or writing, she can be found disappearing into the backcountry trails of Canada with her life-love Mark and losing herself exploring waterfalls and mountain trails. She is a quiet introvert who adores eating clean foods and reading a great book.
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https://candicesmiley.carrd.co/
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